Q I AM A SCHOOL EDUCATOR AND WOULD LIKE TO HELP, HOWEVER WOULDN'T IT BE BETTER IF PARENTS HAVING MARITAL TROUBLES WERE HELPED BY PEOPLE SPECIALLY TRAINED FOR THE JOB SUCH AS MARRIAGE COUNSELLORS
A The quality of compulsory marriage counselling that parents are forced to if they have to go to the Family Court is outstanding however the forces driving parents in society to place their own interests above their children are way to powerful for them to stop.
School educationalists are well placed to help out with education to get the message out there for families and children how they can defend against psychologically destructive parenting practices. Where students are experiencing noticeable problems teachers can refer them to the school Psychologist for counselling and support.
Q I AM A FAMILY MEDICAL DOCTOR AND FEEL THAT I AM OF GREATER VALUE TO MY PATIENTS IF I HELP WITH THEIR MEDICAL PROBLEMS RATHER THAN WORRY ABOUT THEIR DIVORCE PROBLEMS
A The Psychological impact of divorce on children is extreme and if not ameliorated will have lifetime mental and physical impacts on the children in accordance with the Kaiser ACE's study. As a doctor you have a duty to help your patients wherever you can. Child Psychological Abuse comes under the definition of 'Family Violence' in the Family Law Act and consequently your failure to report any concerns that you have to the authorities could result in fines to you of several thousand dollars for each patient you fail to report.
Q I AM A RELIGIOUS LEADER AND WOULD LIKE TO HELP HOWEVER ONCE THE CIVIL PROCESS TAKES OVER I FEEL I AM ENTERING A WAR ZONE THAT THE GOVERNMENT DOES NOT WANT ME TO ENTER
A The best way you can help is by ongoing education programs for all your congregation about psychologically destructive parenting practices. As soon as you become aware that couples are experiencing marital troubles, give them brochures of published studies that show the benefit to children of parents resolving their marital difficulties to put their children first. Do the same with the extended family members.
Q I AM A GODPARENT AND WOULD LIKE TO HELP BUT ONE OR BOTH PARENTS HAVE MADE IT CLEAR THEY DON'T WANT ME GETTING INVOLVED
A You made a lifelong commitment to watch over your God Children to help them whenever you can and now is a crucial time when they really need your help.
You may hear terrible stories about the terrible things one or both parents are alleged to have done during their divorce. Some of these terrible things have been done because the divorce process forces people to do the most terrible things. Some of these are part of a cleverly crafted 'Smear Campaign' designed to denigrate a parent and create a genuinely held belief that one parent is bad to all people that have any contact with a child. If this happens it is likely that one parent will be wiped out of the life of a child.
You need to keep in contact with the parents and their other family and friends and do what you can to put a stop to negativity that some parents can't seem to stop about the other parent. It is tragic that the Government has implemented systems to incite divorce wars to last for decades.
Q THE CHILDREN DO NOT WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH THE OTHER PARENT – 'I CAN'T FORCE THEM TO GO'
A It is a parent's responsibility to ensure that their children have a relationship with the other parent just as they make or 'force' their children to go to school or go to the doctor if they are sick. A child can pick up one parent's subtle clues that that parent does not subconsciously want the child to visit the other parent. Parents who are not firm that the child needs to spend time with the other parent are allowing Parental Role Reversal otherwise known as Parentification to take place. This is also one of Dr Childress's 12 Associated Clinical Signs of pathogenic parenting. Pathogenic parents will at a minimum have a psychological disorder such as Narcissism or Borderline Personality disorders.